Helpful Pointers.

It has come to my attention (more so recently) that the things I believe to be as “common sense” just really isn’t “common sense” to other people. Especially between mature people and more specifically, guy interactions towards girls. I have to remind myself that some of my unsaid expectations come from how I would like to be treated (and also how I would treat others), but it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best (or worst) way of treating people. I would like to share a few pointers with the men that I think many ladies would appreciate. Feel free to agree, disagree, or call me high maintenance.

1. Don’t allow your girl friend to walk home outside alone in the dark. This is simple yet important. Even if she is walking from building 8540 to 8510 and she insists that the buildings are so close together that nothing is going to happen to her- just do it. Don’t even offer to walk her or give her room to reject you- just walk out with her. (I admit- I do not want to hassle the guy to leave his place to walk me to my car or to walk me home, but in the end, I really do appreciate it.)
Extreme and worst scenario, you do not want to regret what you could have done after your girl friend gets raped or hustled by a stranger.
Best case scenario, your friend is safely home (or driving home) and you got your five minutes of exercise for the day.

2. Just compliment her. You know you are thinking it. Instead of  thinking about whether or not to say it out loud, be free. “You look very nice today,” “Your hair looks good,” or even, “I like your jacket! (Is it new?)” No shame, my friends. We are not asking you to notice our new manicure or haircut but most girls will appreciate that you not only noticed but are practicing the gift of affirmation.
Best case scenario they will also acknowledge your confidence and will not automatically think you are trying to make a move. (Unless you really are trying to flirt- then keep your game on, shower her with praises and smile at everything she says, and more power to you.)

3. Don’t be stingy. I’m not only referring to money and to the assumption of the rule that guys always have to pay. No, no, no. But every day we are given the gift of life, I think it is important to be generous with everything we have. This is directed to guys and gals. Be lavish with your resources, your time, your money, your possessions, etc. But in case you were wondering- all girls notice the generosity of peoples’ hearts. Personally, I am highly impressed if you are sly and tough enough to pay for my bill (also very thankful if I don’t have my wallet on me).

So there you have it, friends. Do, say, and give.